October 15: Pregnancy and Infant Awareness Day

October 15th is Pregnancy and Infant Awareness Day, which is fitting because this month we would have been welcoming our fourth child on October 31st. I was able to read different Facebook posts about women who have lost little ones at different stages of pregnancies and some that were stillborn. The most important message I got out of everything that I read is.... it is okay to grieve even if I was wasn't far along. It is okay to talk about it and share my feelings. Most want you to acknowledge that they lost a baby.
Even though my little one was only 14 weeks when I miscarried I think about that little one all the time. As my friends bellies started growing I would think that should be me. As friends shared their ultrasound I would be a little envious. Then they all started posting their delivery stories. At times I was sad, but I was still happy that their babies were healthy. I appreciated the friends that would ask how I was doing instead of ignoring the fact that I wasn't pregnant anymore.
If I can take anything from this experience is to be more aware of everyone's situation and make sure I talk about it with them. Hopefully, they will know that I care and can call me whenever they need to talk. I know I will be able to heal more now that my due date has passed.